It starts young. We can all remember the group of girls that were mean. They would look you up and down, exclude you from the lunch table, and whisper behind your back. Sometimes they would even pretend to be your friend just to get your help on school work. I am not bitter or anything. It is funny, because we strive for more gender equality between men and women. But, ladies, shouldn’t we stick together and practice what we preach? How can women demand equality with men if we are not even playing on the same team?
Just think if we were more united as a gender, perhaps we could have already experienced seeing the first woman U.S. president shatter the glass ceiling into millions of pieces. Yet the Huffington Post‘s Juilette Frette explains women are quick to judge and compete with other women. Women are mean to other women. Many seem to think they have another woman’s whole story figured out just by her looks, her appearance, or her body type.
I should mention not all women are mean. But, sadly all too often women are mean to women. I have found motherhood seems to change all of this.
Outside of my amazing husband, I owe much of where I am today as a new mother to the women I have met and reconnected with along the way. Continue reading
These days there seems to be an app for everything. But, when it comes to parenting, there is no one, all-inclusive parenting app.
As soon as I found out we were expecting. I instantly inherited parenting books from family and friends. Immediately after skimming the books, I realized reading before the baby had even arrived was going to be information overload and create anxiety. I could have developed the best, most detailed plan, but I did not know my baby yet. What kind of personality does he have? Does he have colic or is he laid back? What if he is born with a concerning health condition? I have continued to avoid reading books. Instead I prefer talking to real moms going through the same challenges and successes I am. I am so lucky to have built a support network with other local new moms through the new moms support group hosted by Healthy Families and the Howard County General Hospital.
Earlier this week, a new local mommy and I chatted about her bottle challenges. It was an awesome feeling to know she trusted me and wanted to use me as sounding board. At the same time, I had some concerns about leaving my little guy in a few weeks to go back to work. She had some great advice for me. Later that same day I joined a Facebook discussion in reaction to the TODAY anchor, Savannah Guthrie, still putting mittens on her 7-week old little, adorable girl. It turned out Savannah was extremely fearful of clipping her baby’s nails and felt that was the only solution. I had offered some advice – use a nail file. A few hours later TODAY mentioned me by name and referenced my advice in an online story.
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